Live the life you choose to live, not the one you feel obligated to
This last Sunday we had my sweet Everett’s fifth birthday party (he has no idea that today is his actual birthday). It was a classic March morning at our home in California; the warm Spring sun shined on our first guests as they walked up the driveway then fat raindrops fell on the guests who …
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I’m tired of being told by billionaire COO’s to "Lean In" and to “have it all” I’m tired of pretending I want to climb the corporate ladder as high as I possibly can, no matter what the cost I’m tired of reading “empowering” self-help books that tell me how I can achieve my greatest possible …
This morning was like any other in the office: calm, orderly, busy but peaceful. My friendly, professional co-workers were scattered about the open office floor, comfortably nestled into each of their five-foot by five-foot worlds. Most were reading through the few dozen emails that filled up their inbox since they last checked it at 10pm …
I (fortunately) don’t know much about drugs or addiction. But as I reflect on my relationship with External Validation, I can’t help but notice the similarities. Exposure I learned at an early age of the “high” I could get from pleasing others. While I wasn’t a naturally gifted student, I worked hard to earn decent …
So far, I've shared with you what Leaning OUT means. Now, let me clarify what it does not mean. If you choose to Lean OUT: it does NOT mean you're lazy it does NOT mean you don't care about your job or your coworkers it does NOT mean you judge others who choose to Lean …
In June 2017, I found myself in an impressive boardroom, sitting with the Chief Information Officer (CIO) of a major, public corporation with whom I was interviewing for a job. We were having a very engaging conversation about the role of enterprise applications in a modern organization and my own interests and experience in managing …
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If you have kids under the age of ten, you probably recognize the names Skye, Owlette, and Starla. They’re all female support characters on today’s most popular gender-neutral kids shows. And they’re not alone... I’m not sure when I first noticed this trend. It might have been when I learned my third child was a …
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It’s 5:45 on a Saturday morning. It’s still dark outside and most of the world will be sleeping in for a couple more hours. But in our house, there is no such thing as “sleeping in” because the three little humans in our home barely know their left from right, let alone what day of …
The same week I launched “We Lean OUT”, I had a very discouraging conversation with a coworker. It was Tuesday, January 9th so the office was a buzz with “Happy New Year!” as everyone gradually returned from weeks off of work, swapping stories about their Hawaiian vacations and Mexican cruises. Except for me. I had …
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In Fall 2016, I returned to work from my third maternity leave. I was in survival mode. I had a 1.5 hour commute (each way), a husband who had just become a teacher so was throwing himself into his work, and we were raising a 4-month-old, a 3-year-old and a 6-year-old. I felt like I …
