The “Luxurious” 40-hour Workweek

Having firm personal boundaries is one of the ways I’m able to be a high-performing professional and a fully engaged wife and mother, while trying to keep my sanity. So when our family schedule recently changed and I became the one responsible for getting the kids up, fed, dressed, organized, and to school every morning, …

What Glenn Close Got Completely Wrong in Her Golden Globes Speech

Last Sunday night, Glenn Close accepted the 2019 Golden Globe for best actress in a drama. In her speech, she honored her late mother, Bettine Moore Close, and her comments have since gone viral. Through her tears, Close said “I’m thinking of my mom, who really sublimated herself to my father her whole life. And …

“Hi, my name is Monica and I’m a privileged white woman.”

I recently shared my article from Working Mother magazine in a Facebook group of other working moms. As I expected, there were a number of comments from readers saying they appreciated the message and totally related to it. Then of course there was one member who was pissed that I have the guts to even …

Why You Shouldn’t Make a New Year’s Resolution

It’s almost January and in the early weeks of the new year, fitness centers will be packed and Weight Watchers will have a line out the door. People everywhere will commit to better versions of themselves in 2019. But that treadmill line will inevitably die back down after a few weeks of January mayhem. Why? …

Don’t Blame “Corporate America…”

There have been a number of responses to the Lean OUT message saying that ‘Corporate America’ needs to change its expectations of what professional success looks like. I couldn’t agree more. But since we can’t write a complaint letter to Mrs. Corporate America, how do we go about getting her to change? The problem isn’t …

A Father’s Day Legacy

On an unseasonably chilly June afternoon, against the majestic backdrop of Mt. Bachelor illuminated in the Oregon sun, surrounded by Aspen trees shivering in the wind, 85 guests witnessed vows of commitment and love between my cousin, Paul, and his new bride, Michelle. Throughout the evening, we all toasted and danced in celebration of the …

Accomplished Silicon Valley Men Can Lean OUT Too

My Facebook feed recently showed a post from a friend who is a very respected leader at my former company, a promising billion-dollar Silicon Valley startup. His post announced that after four years (which is an eternity at a skyrocketing startup), he was leaving the company. This friend had joined the company shortly after I …